My dear Sweatpants & Coffee tribe,
Everything works better if maintained regularly, especially you – an organic expression of energy, consciousness, and, in my case, various neuroses.
The problem is that often times, we don’t know where to begin with self-care. Have you ever let a room get so out-of-control that it’s easier to just shut the door rather than deal with it? Yeah, me neither. I certainly haven’t ever shoved piles of unfolded laundry and unsorted junk mail into a room, closed the door, and warned my children in a dark whisper, “Hush. We mustn’t anger it.” Absolutely not. But for the sake of metaphor, let’s say you know what I’m talking about.
If I’m not attentive, this is what I do with my mental and physical needs, until the mess has reached epic proportions. And, then what? Where do I even start? My life is falling apart; maybe quinoa would help?
I’ve accepted that I will never be a schedule person. I can barely even manage to get my car in for an oil change before the engine starts knocking. I let the water filter light on the fridge blink for an embarrassingly long time before I finally change the thing. If the dentist’s office didn’t hound me send me helpful reminders, I would have my teeth cleaned once a decade.
But you know what I’m pretty okay at? Random acts of self-care. Pouncing on small opportunities to tend to myself. They almost never involve quinoa. If you’re like me and can’t manage to formulate much less stick to a self-care regimen, you might be better off practicing random acts of self-care.
Here are some ideas:
- if you’re hungry, feed yourself
- read something good
- talk to a friend (texting counts, so do online friends)
- change your clothes
- go for a walk
- take a hot bath
- marathon your favorite show
- clear off one surface in a room
- go to bed early
- learn something new
- listen to music
- make a list of things you love
- light a candle
- take your medicine
- stay out of the comments section
- write in your journal
- do laundry
- schedule a shower cry
- sit outside
- play a phone game
- allow yourself to be angry, sad, frustrated, etc. – you get to feel all your feelings
- remind yourself that it’s almost never about you
- sing in the car
- let yourself off the hook if you’re still not over it
- show up for your appointments
- take a step back if you need to; progress is not linear
- smile only if you FEEL LIKE IT
- drink some water
- say yes to something that scares but intrigues you
- say no to something that no longer serves you
- ask for help
- accept help
Remember, we deserve goodness.