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Random Acts of Self-Care

By Nanea Hoffman

Everything works better if maintained regularly, especially you – an organic expression of energy, consciousness, and, in my case, various neuroses.

The problem is that often times, we don’t know where to begin with self-care. Have you ever let a room get so out-of-control that it’s easier to just shut the door rather than deal with it? Yeah, me neither. I certainly haven’t ever shoved piles of unfolded laundry and unsorted junk mail into a room, closed the door, and warned my children in a dark whisper, “Hush. We mustn’t anger it.” Absolutely not. But for the sake of metaphor, let’s say you know what I’m talking about.

If I’m not attentive, this is what I do with my mental and physical needs, until the mess has reached epic proportions. And, then what? Where do I even start? My life is falling apart; maybe quinoa would help?

I’ve accepted that I will never be a schedule person. I can barely even manage to get my car in for an oil change before the engine starts knocking. I let the water filter light on the fridge blink for an embarrassingly long time before I finally change the thing. If the dentist’s office didn’t hound me send me helpful reminders, I would have my teeth cleaned once a decade.

But you know what I’m pretty okay at? Random acts of self-care. Pouncing on small opportunities to tend to myself. They almost never involve quinoa. If you’re like me and can’t manage to formulate much less stick to a self-care regimen, you might be better off practicing random acts of self-care.

Here are some ideas:

  • if you’re hungry, feed yourself
  • read something good
  • talk to a friend (texting counts, so do online friends)
  • change your clothes
  • go for a walk
  • take a hot bath
  • marathon your favorite show
  • clear off one surface in a room
  • go to bed early
  • learn something new
  • listen to music
  • make a list of things you love
  • light a candle
  • take your medicine
  • stay out of the comments section
  • write in your journal
  • do laundry
  • schedule a shower cry
  • sit outside
  • play a phone game
  • allow yourself to be angry, sad, frustrated, etc. – you get to feel all your feelings
  • remind yourself that it’s almost never about you
  • sing in the car
  • let yourself off the hook if you’re still not over it
  • show up for your appointments
  • take a step back if you need to; progress is not linear
  • smile only if you FEEL LIKE IT
  • drink some water
  • say yes to something that scares but intrigues you
  • say no to something that no longer serves you
  • ask for help
  • accept help

Remember, we deserve goodness.

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About Nanea Hoffman (287 Articles)
Nanea Hoffman is the founder of Sweatpants & Coffee. She writes, she makes things, and she drinks an inordinate amount of coffee. She is also extremely fond of sweatpants. She believes in love, peace, joy, comfort, and caffeinated beverages.

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