Everything works better if maintained regularly, especially you – an organic expression of energy, consciousness, and, in my case, various neuroses.

The problem is that often times, we don’t know where to begin with self-care. Have you ever let a room get so out-of-control that it’s easier to just shut the door rather than deal with it? Yeah, me neither. I certainly haven’t ever shoved piles of unfolded laundry and unsorted junk mail into a room, closed the door, and warned my children in a dark whisper, “Hush. We mustn’t anger it.” Absolutely not. But for the sake of metaphor, let’s say you know what I’m talking about.

If I’m not attentive, this is what I do with my mental and physical needs, until the mess has reached epic proportions. And, then what? Where do I even start? My life is falling apart; maybe quinoa would help?

I’ve accepted that I will never be a schedule person. I can barely even manage to get my car in for an oil change before the engine starts knocking. I let the water filter light on the fridge blink for an embarrassingly long time before I finally change the thing. If the dentist’s office didn’t hound me send me helpful reminders, I would have my teeth cleaned once a decade.

But you know what I’m pretty okay at? Random acts of self-care. Pouncing on small opportunities to tend to myself. They almost never involve quinoa. If you’re like me and can’t manage to formulate much less stick to a self-care regimen, you might be better off practicing random acts of self-care.


Here are some ideas:

    • if you’re hungry, feed yourself
    • read something good
    • talk to a friend (texting counts, so do online friends)
    • change your clothes
    • go for a walk
    • take a hot bath
    • marathon your favorite show
    • clear off one surface in a room
    • go to bed early
    • learn something new
    • listen to music
    • make a list of things you love
    • light a candle
    • take your medicine
    • stay out of the comments section
    • write in your journal
    • do laundry
    • schedule a shower cry
    • sit outside
    • play a phone game
    • allow yourself to be angry, sad, frustrated, etc. – you get to feel all your feelings
    • remind yourself that it’s almost never about you
    • sing in the car
    • let yourself off the hook if you’re still not over it
    • show up for your appointments
    • take a step back if you need to; progress is not linear
    • smile only if you FEEL LIKE IT
    • drink some water
    • say yes to something that scares but intrigues you
    • say no to something that no longer serves you
    • ask for help
    • accept help


Remember, we deserve goodness.

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