When “How Are You?” Is a Loaded Question
Content Warning: suicide, loss How are you? Three little words. “How are you?” One easy question? Or one loaded question? How
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January 9, 2020
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I Didn’t Just Survive the Old Year; I Lived It
We now enter the time of year when it seems everywhere, everywhere, people are heartily wishing 2019 a swift “Fuck off.” And
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December 30, 2019
Ugly Steps and Crooked Railings
When we first bought our house, it had a wonky, completely non-code step that led up onto the front porch. It required you to
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September 15, 2019
The Gift of Fire: What the Anger Teaches
I smelled the fire before I knew what it was. I couldn’t see it or feel it, but the air smelled wrong. An acrid, smoky scent
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September 9, 2019
How to Make it Through that First Year of Grief
On an afternoon in mid-July, my then-husband said to me, “Perhaps we should separate.” This was the day before we went on
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July 25, 2019
How Tattoos Tell Our Stories
I used to have a bumper sticker—fortunately, never affixed to my car’s bumper—that read, “tattoos: not just for sailors and
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July 16, 2019
Losing Alex
I still remember it like it was yesterday. The crisp January air stung my face as I hurried across the Lubbock Christian
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May 17, 2019
The Harm of Fixers | 5 Types of Well-Meaning People You Encounter When Suffering
There are people in your life who only like you when you are shiny and happy. They’re there to celebrate your triumphs. They
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March 28, 2019
That’s What She Said | The Awesomely Spicy Divorce Playlist
Going through a divorce requires its own playlist. I should know. If my divorce was a combination plate, I’d be on the last
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March 26, 2019
Personal Essays | Two Parallel Lives
I am living two parallel lives. I am both happy and sad. My heart is so full, and yet so broken. I look toward the future
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March 10, 2019
