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The Harm of Fixers | 5 Types of Well-Meaning People You Encounter When Suffering

March 28, 2019 // 1 Comment

There are people in your life who only like you when you are shiny and happy. They’re there to celebrate your triumphs. They love it when you’re grateful and full of joy. [...]

That’s What She Said | The Awesomely Spicy Divorce Playlist

March 26, 2019 // 0 Comments

Going through a divorce requires its own playlist. I should know. If my divorce was a combination plate, I’d be on the last taco, nothing left on my plate but a smattering [...]

Personal Essays | Two Parallel Lives

March 10, 2019 // 0 Comments

I am living two parallel lives. I am both happy and sad. My heart is so full, and yet so broken. I look toward the future with both hope and dread. [...]

“When Death Comes” | A Tribute to Mary Oliver

January 17, 2019 // 0 Comments

I found out this morning that one of my all-time favorite poets died. Mary Oliver, the badass pen toting poet died. I’m still processing and my heart is in shock. Her work [...]

Anxiety Blob | Anxiety Blog: Jumping Back In

January 16, 2019 // 0 Comments

One of the biggest challenges of living with anxiety is figuring out how to re-enter the world after you’ve been in retreat mode. You know that feeling, say, when you’ve [...]

She Had Always Known Me: Remembering Poet Ntozake Shange

January 3, 2019 // 2 Comments

My children have grown accustomed to my grief. Over the years—from the death of my parents and grandparents, aunts and uncles, a beloved cousin, to those of schoolmates [...]

Notes from Nanea | Holiday Complexity and the Beauty of Now

December 24, 2018 // 1 Comment

My dear Sweatpants & Coffee tribe, The house smells of baking and coffee. It’s deliciously quiet, now that I’ve shoved a bag of still-warm cookies into my [...]

That’s What She Said | All I Want for Christmas is to be Made Whole

December 19, 2018 // 0 Comments

Christmas is hard. Also, that’s what she said. While there are many – quite vocal – people who love the holiday season, with the lights and baking and [...]

Sweatpants & Soul | Fighting for the Present in the Middle of the Past and Future

December 9, 2018 // 0 Comments

“…I believed that I was living in the center, but I rarely let my feet rest on solid ground, rooting me in the present… my mind hummed with possible futures. Always. If [...]

Personal Essays | Caregiver First, Elizabeth Second

November 29, 2018 // 0 Comments

2009, early high school. If you had asked 15-year-old Elizabeth to describe herself with three terms, “caregiver” would have been first. Before student, before sister, [...]